I’m having a bit of trouble with my partner and I. We were doing Poly for a month or so. We start dating the same girl. Partner had a date with her and also they got mildly physical. Before my first date with girl I develop feeling quickly and then partner decides they don’t want to do poly anymore. Fine with me. My partner is priority and we hadn’t been involved with her long. Partner offers we should focus on us for a bit. We both continue texting girl as a friend. One day partner says me texting her so often makes her feel uneasy. I agree to only text her in our group chat. Partner also gets upset when I call girl pretty or cute or anything like that even though I do that with ALL MY FRIENDS. I don’t like to pry or be the first person to text all the time. Girl hasn’t texted in our group chat and I start to think it’s cause she doesn’t like us. I then realized girl and my partner text kinda often and now I’m feeling really jealous. I’m restricted in the way and how often I can text this person, but my partner isn’t. I’m jealous I never got to date them and my partner has (which they mention often). I’m sad that I feel like an afterthought because I can’t make myself as present in her life as my partner does. I have rejection sensitivity and often feel like my friends don’t actually like me.

Am I being too much? Haven’t said anything. I feel guilty cause honestly it just feels like a crush and we did not do well with poly.