I (32 M) have started dipping my toes into this world along with my wife (33 F). We have been together for 14 years and married for 5. Very happy in our relationship and looking to explore more about sexuality, love, and relationships. We haven’t ventured out of monogamy yet but are talking and exploring what we would want it to be. One of her main concerns is privacy and how open she is willing to be/for us to be in regards to dating sites. She is worried what others within her career path might see and think. I have similar concerns but with different “people finding out” in mind.

My question here is not so much about how to get past this because I think in time we will find our comfortable paths into ENM, but more so focused on others experiences. Have you had any hang ups about this topic? Do you worry about people finding out about your lifestyle that could hurt your other opportunities in life? What have you done to keep people from finding out without your willingness for them to know?

Thanks for being such a wonderful community for answers to these big questions!