My wife and I have been involved with hotwifing for over a year. Recently she has admitted that she wants it to be more, and she wants to be able to start dating other people too, not just having sex.

How do you balance activities with your life partner vs your secondary? For example, we have 3 kids at home, so we don't have as much opportunity and means to go out and do a lot of activities. Her current secondary is a single, well-paid professional who works from home, so he not only has the financial means to take her on all kinds of adventures, but doesn't have any other obligations, so he has the time to do it whenever she is free. How do you balance out your life at "home" and your time with your secondary?