Hey everyone. My (34m) partner (34f) and I are discussing an enm relationship. While I am a bit more experienced at this relationship style, my partner isn't. We communicate our feelings very well and we do our best to address any fears and anxieties we might have. I've personally hit a block at how to answer a question. I've had other partners ask this question as well and I feel as if I've never been able to answer it well or at least answer it in a way that makes them feel better. That question is

"if I'm enough for you then why do you need someone else?"

I've tried to reassure partners in the past and even go as far as to explain that it's not a contest or anything they are or aren't doing. That question has always made me uncomfortable and at times makes me feel like they're viewing the other partners as sexual objects or a sign that out relationship is lacking in some way.

Ultimately I'm aware, enm might not be right for us and we might have to make a decision if that's the case