I’ve been dating this guy for almost 2 months, he has a nesting partner who also dates others. We’ve fooled around a bunch but hadn’t had intercourse yet. Yesterday it was about to happen but… no condom! I said I’d grab some from my car, he said forget it, can’t use condoms. (ETA: I took it to mean that he can’t maintain an erection with a condom on) The sex did not happen.

I… just… what? I’ve never had unprotected sex except w/ my husband when we were monogamous. The fact that this guy I’m seeing would be so casual about it with no discussion ahead of time is making me rethink everything with him. And dang it, I liked him.

Thoughts on this?