So, im 39 this lady is 54 and i find her attractive (this is over a span of 2 years) and I work with her, i help her with a patient. I see her twice a week, 30 mins each. She is single, divorced since 2012. Latina with bleached blonde hair type 5'3 to 5'2. 125 lbs.

In a nutshell- She flirts with me, she called me "hey handsome, and gives me a lot of sexual innuendo like "hey, are you ready for a "quicky" (she says that when we are about to do a patient). She would ask me questions about what kind of girls i like, do i have any tattoos, etc. We'd get into the sex talk like what time of the day she like it and she's ask me if i had erectile problem ever? She'd laugh at the lamest jokes, touch me on arm, and pushes her knees on my butt i from what i remember! like twice

- She would ask me what i look for in a girl.

- She would tell me certain ethnicity asked her out but she don't give them time of the day.

- We already have each other's phone number, we don't chit chat on the phone at ALL or no texting at all only when i try to set something up for a date.

What BAFFLES ME:

I've asked her out in person and via text id say 4 times now total over 2 year span. She would NEVER COUNTER OFFER on the spot. BUT the next time i see her should would make a SUBLIMINIAL COUNTER OFFER

Example 1

-- Day A -- (i am trying the NOT yes or no approach)

Me "Come join me play poker maybe you might learn new hobby, if you aren't doing anything tomorrow "her: "Oh, what time? im afraid i might get addicted. Btw I have work, look, see, i want you to know i'm not lying. Look at my phone my schedule says i have work tomorrow"

-- Day B -- Her: "bla bla, so are we going to wear mask when we go out?"

Example 2

-- Day A -- Me: "Hey, how about i come over to your house, you cook, i bring wine" her: "I have tenants that are moving in bla bla and i got to clean rooms"

- Day B -- we'd be in a middle of a conversation and she say something like

Her: "I was going to invite you for a night out of town (she was in phoenix and she knew i was in san diego)" I'm like common really, she expects me to drive the impossible lol??

Example 3

She invited me to a social wine tasting event and she knew I'm not down with mass social gatherings due to the pandemic. So i didn't go to that..

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IVE ALREADY accepted she's not into me sexually at least, i mean common 2 damn years, i haven't gotten anywhere with her? lol. I hate seeing her but i have to help her with the patient we both have to take care of and i can't show that I'm tired of the fake crap. I don't want to call her out on it because i work too close to her with patients. I don't need the awkward crap. I NEVER acted need, desperate.

QUESTION IS: Should I ACT ON THE SUBLIMIINAL COUNTER OFFER SHE MAKES? I thought WOMEN are suppose to make a "HARD COUNTER OFFER LIKE" "oh i cant make it that day, how about Thursday" because i'd hate to keep asking her out and lose my self worth. I have a rule of not asking out more than 2 to 3 depending on interaction.

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Bonus!!: How did this all start? I asked her out because I thought it was going to be her last day at work So I said: "Hey Lea, i think you're pretty we should go out for a drink"

Lea: "Oh thank you, how old are you? I think I'm too old for you"

Me: "Ok cool no problem! Take it as a compliment@" - i said that in a very cool tone too

Lea: " wait, i think you're handsome bla bla.. what's the oldest woman you've date and youngest bla bla"

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its nice to get this off my chest.