I didn't even see this on the sub so I'm posting again. I really believe this may help some as it seems there is more ranting about what not to message or just not to message at all. I'm sure it is quite frustrating for those genuinely searching.

Hello everyone. I can only speak for myself on this and wanted to share.

Gentlemen...do go into my or a ladies profile check out pur post history. I can guarantee it will save you time and effort. You will get an insight of what we like and what we don't. Maybe not all of preciously said things but enough to gauge whether to message or not.

I appreciate when a guy has already done that. That way they already are aware of certain things about me. And may help with conversation starting or conversationin general. Believe me if you ping me I will look into your profile/post history.

Like I said in speak for myself. Not sure how the other ladies feel about this.

And apologies, this is not an open invitation to flood my inbox. I feel like it may be moot to say but please don't. But hey....reddit🤷‍♀️