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I (26m) have been seeing a woman (47m) and dating long distance over a couple months (4.5hr drive). Things have been electric in person. But over text, it seems like she always assumes the worst with anything I say. Like everything I ask or do/don’t do must have a negative implication. I know she has been through some terrible things in her life, and I want to help but we can’t seem to have a conversation about anything tough without her feeling we should end things for reasons along the line of “not being good enough”.
I don’t know what to do. We see each other once every 2 weeks or so, and these blowups happen about 3-5 times in between, all only over text.
I feel like I can’t suggest we stop texting as much, or take a break in general, without her being done with us.
Any advice on what I should try to do? I don’t want to give up, but it’s getting to the point where it’s negatively affecting my mental health and I can’t do this forever.
I don't necessarily think this age gap or LDR based. I think if you lived 10 mins away you would still be having these issues. I think she needs to do more self work and maybe therapy to help her with those insecurities and work through some of her past issues. I think it would be best to let her go work on herself and it would be more healthy for you as it's already causing you stress and stuff. There will be many other fishes in the sea
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