So I met a cub on a NSFW Subreddit 15 months ago. Immediately we started sexting, sending nudes whatever. But in between that we'd also have normal chats and slowly we got to find out little bits about each other's lives.

We lived across the world from each other and due to this plus him being half my age, there's no way we'd be together anyhow. So in the digital realm it stayed.

Then one day I find out from him that he's kinda interested in a coworker. Okay that's cool. I don't mention anything until the other day when I bring up this cowoker again out of curiosity because in my mind I'm starting to get a bit wary. He says directly he's been dating her for the last couple of months and have shared a sexual encounter together.

Great so. Why were you Snapchatting with me then? "I don't know why I did it. I do like you." He says. By this time I liked him too. Not majorly, but a little bit. He made me feel sexy & desired thought my body was beautiful. No other man has ever said that to me before.

But again I'm back to having feelings of being used as a placeholder. I haven't dated since my last relationship in 2018, and it's because of things like this.

Cubs: Do better. Be honest. If you wanna play the field just say so.