😆 I (F43) just mean out in the dating world that’s not specifically for cougars/cubs.

I hear from a lot of young gentlemen who seem to assume that I’m looking to be a Mommy Domme. Do others have this experience? IS that common or even the norm in this space? (ETA - I am NOT looking for this dynamic.)

Less gentlemanly fellows list off things they’d like to do with me as if I’m an Xrated McDonald’s drive thru menu. I sometimes get a vibe that they think that just because I’m an older woman I will be grateful to be with them. (Maybe they don’t realize we get swiped on all day and night by men 18 to 108. 🤷🏻‍♀️)

I had a phone call with a guy (M24) recently and asked him about his interest in older women and he reciprocated by asking about my interest in younger men and it’s had me thinking.

What I knew already was that I’m most attracted to men who are 32/33ish. I think because they generally look “peak manly”, if that makes sense to any of you.

I do sometimes consider men as young as 24 but I’m generally not very attracted to them I think that’s because they just haven’t filled out yet. But I do still find myself drawn to them in a certain way and I’m just wondering how common this is.

I am drawn to what I presume is their relative inexperience, but not because I want to teach them. My sexual history (long story there of course) is basically that I had very little sex in a 20-year relationship and though I’ve been having fun dating over the last couple of years and have learned a ton about sex and my own sexuality, I still just feel so inexperienced, and also a little overwhelmed by men my own age (late 30s to mid-40s). Honestly I feel like I have the experience of a 24-year-old! And it sounds very appealing to me to be with someone else who is at a similar stage. I just imagine this sweet and spicy space of mutual learning, growing, trying new things, being messy, making mistakes, and being patient and kind to one another. Does this resonate with anyone?

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