I got to thinking about this after a convo I had with a match earlier. Long story short I matched with a older woman on Facebook and she asked in a joking way if I’m rich. I joked with her back that I work in the solar industry (I’m starting a job with a solar company in September) and she later told me she asked that because she gets a lot of messages from guys asking her to be their sugar mommy. Just hearing stuff like that irks the heck out of me.

Sugar mommys aren’t a thing and 10 times out of 10 they turn out to be scammers. Add on top of that, I think too many young guys watch cougar related porn to where they form the idea in their head that all older women want spicy time 24/7. That ruins it for those of us who want a genuine connection and also makes some older women more hesitant to match with young guys.

For the fellow cubs out there, if you want to be with an older woman don’t pursue them based off a fantasy you formed off surfing X rated content. It’s a massive turn off to older women and as people who constantly see the negative stigma society’s set around younger man-older woman relationships we should set a better example for other cubs to look up to.

Edit: I saw the message from the mods and made sure to fix the post so it doesn’t get deleted (sorry for the mix-up)