So I can't have kids. I had cancer at 42 so that was taken from me. I'm also aged out, obviously at 56 (57 next week, ugh). That said, my sense is I'm seen as a fetish, story to tell, conquest, or a muse. Do cubs see older women as potential marriage material given the possibility of no kids? For me, I am ready to settle down and not just be a ons or fwb. Unfortunately, I've only been able to have FWB just to get those needs met but finding the emotional connection, yea, that's hasn't happened in over a decade. Obviously that's a me issue. I just prefer cubs but I think I just want different things. Not blaming or pointing fingers. It's just all circumstantial. I certainly was not ready for anything in my 30s either. I would like someone in their 30's or 40's with kids or not wanting kids, ready to settle down and travel. Seems like a tall order though.