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Slightly weird question here, but have any other subs or masochists on here found that they have (or been accused of having) a martyr complex?
Something in my vanilla life made me realize that I sometimes willingly make things more difficult for myself than they need to be if I think itās what someone wants. Even if they tell me I donāt have to, Iāll do it for (what I perceive as) the sake of the relationship. Itās hard to explain in specifics, and it doesnāt dominate my life or anything, itās just a pattern Iāve noticed.
Iāve read that itās a form of masochism, which made me wonder if itās connected to my submissive tendencies. Do I want my future partner to dominate me because itās enjoyable, or because I subconsciously think itās not a ārealā relationship if Iām not suffering for it? Do I even really enjoy it, or am I just rewarding myself for vindicating the complex?
Iāll cut myself off before I get too rambly, but Iām curious if anyone else has noticed a similar association, in themselves or others. Alternatively, if there are any psychologists in the room, Iād be happy for someone to give me a better explanation than the Wikipedia page.
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