Whenever my (m, 30, gay) dominant side comes out it takes only a few days before I can find a decent sub. In fact I'm in a relationship with a sub right now. It's just straightforward.

But for years I've been looking for a regular dom and it just doesn't work. Whenever I think I made a connection, I get sidetracked - we'd meet, have a decent sesh, long talks and then he ghosts me. Dom messages me, we chat briefly, he ghosts me.

It's especially painful, because I consider myself actually more sub than dom and I've barely had any good experiences as submissive in my life.

I'm quite masculine, but not overly. I'm a bit introvert and occasionally get overwhelmed when with a hot guy.

Anyone had a similar issue? What am I doing wrong?