I play exclusively online. And in that space I spend a lot of time making sure my partners feel safe, cared for, and appreciated.

But there are times when I get hit with drop. And I'm always so afraid to ask for just some cuddle time or even just let's say nice things about each other.

I know the kink community is full of predators, and I hate that. But I think I shame myself so much for needing something for myself, that I can go for days in drop. Just not feeling human.

And then on the flip side I worry about not being "Dom enough" because there's so many posts by fake dom's with comments and followers and I can linger for days because I try to be open and honest.

I understand no one owes me their time. And lord.this is turning into a ramble. But how do fellow online pleasure Dom's seek proper care for themselves?