I went to my first (all vaxxed) play party yesterday since the pandemic. While I had a great time, there were times when I was letting other people touch me/kiss me/grope me even when I didn't really want that kind of attention from them. I was lucky to have some friends run interception with a creeper or two, but other times I freeze. I don't want to be a "buzzkill" and I'm a naturally flirty, sexual person who likes attention, so I go along with it but feel shitty afterwards. Like, some people were grabbing my throat and biting my neck and I had to say "no marks on my neck" and they stopped but I still got marks when I woke up today with a sore neck.

This is a recurring issue for me. I don't see examples of people saying "no" in public so I feel like if I were to do it I'd be seen as weird.

This tends to happen with me letting people touch/kiss/grope me whom I'm not attracted to when I wasn't able to get attention from people I was attracted to.

How have other people dealt with this?

Edit to add: There were a few times when someone touched me without consent but I’m asking about those times when I say “yeah sure” when I really mean “no.”