I've been involved lets say for probably 10 years or more now. But I find the most common kinks of people at munches are not my strongest ones. My domination really focuses on control and objectification. On the later point I really enjoy that TPE feeling that they will do anything I want, not through force but through desire.

So over the years one of the things that has grown as a kink in fantasy but not in practical execute (as yet) has been to literally modify their body to my taste. After all I own it, and they serve me.

Clearly that is not going to be for everyone. More mild forms would be: you are going to wear your hair this way, or this color, or you are going to get this piecing. I've found some people who will do these it reminds them that I own them. The more extreme modifications would be things like: you will get this plastic surgery or that. Clearly there are huge medical and ethical issues on this level.

But my question remains how common is this desire on both sides of the D/s. Being monogamous and not that into heavy bondage sometimes feels really isolating.