New sub here, after second session with first Dom had some red flags and emailed him this: RED FLAGS, May 27th

Red flag #1- You devalued my safework and my trust by not stopping immediately after I called the safeword. You said you hit on another spot and that “I could take a few more.” Sure I could, and I did. But that doesnt mean I wanted it. I had to take the damn stick away from you?! Have you ever used those type of sticks on any other sub? I don’t think you were in control because one stick did break. And why you gotta break my skin? I didn’t know you were gonna do that. I think you were not in touch with me and too eager to get started.

Red Flag #2- You made me take a picture that I was not 100% on board with. I did not take any pics last appointment. Even though I confided in you saying I did kinda want a picture from last time, that did not mean I’m instantly down with pics. I have no nudes and do not like naked pics, I am classy. Your eagerness to get the pic made me feel trashy and I knew you wanted to share it with your friend to show him how I let you totally thrash my ass. I don’t care that you share, I do care that you make me feel trashy.

Red Flag #3- You dowsed some lube on my completely unprepared asshole and rammed me with all your force. I recoiled in pain, just about to call safeword, and you said “I used lube.” I actually thought you would have planned on saving my ass for the next day with both of yall. Sure, hot, fine. But I do not do anal enough for you to take me like that ever. First time, you spent a lot of time gently opening me up and that is what I need every time.

I know you are a REAL Dom, but are you a GOOD Dom? I am not a Doormat sub. What happened to kisses before and after? I also like and need more penetrative vaginal sex. I made a mistake by sending you a huge list of ideas. You wanted to wrap up as many things into 1 or 2 scenes and I wanted all these over...like…. a year. I did do everything I absolutely could to be ready in my planning. I should have known myself better than to ask for 2 scenes. That was a big mistake on my part. It is more than fair to say and is 100% accurate that I was receiving the scene through glasses tinted by chronic disability. I should have called Wednesday off to preserve Thursday. However, I did not like the way you portrayed the consenual non-consent scene taking place. Too much too fast. I went from getting my toes wet to diving into the deep end. We both forgot how new and delicate I am.

I hope you respond or reply in some way, in time. If you don’t, I get it and understand.