So, kind of a bit of a long story, so hang in there. Before I launch into it, up until tonight, I would have described myself thusly: "I'm a switch--I can Top or Bottom, don't matter to me."

For the last week and a half, I've been staying with a friend and her fiancee, who is also a good friend whom I used to work with. We got to talking the other night, the topic of kink came up.

Long story short, she's kind of a Little in thr bedroom, wants him to be her Daddy, but he's afraid to do it because Catholic upbringing etc.

So, I had some paracord with me, and as a way for her to break the ice, I made a flogger and "accidentally" left it sitting on the sofa while I walked out on the balcony to make a phone call, right as they were both coming home from work. That was...Wednesday, I think.

Well, a few conversations later, we were sitting in the living roon this evening, and I had the paracord out. We were talking, and she brought up kink again. She asked him if he'd walk her around their complex on a collar and leash. "Yeah, sure, if you want me too."

I had the paracord out again, so I looked at her and said "You want a collar?" So I spent a pleasant half hour talking kink with two good friends while knotting paracord into a collar.

While I was making the collar, I gave them a bit of a crash-course, explaining what BDSM is (consensual activities) and isn't (abuse), and said something along the lines of "I'd be happy to give you a sort of Dom boot camp. We'll need to discuss limits, boundaries, what everybody wants out of the scene, that kind of thing." We did just that, during which time I made it clear that I would not be engaging in any sexual contact of any kind with either of them.

Well...about an hour later...he gets up to go to the bathroom, and she has me put the collar on her all sneaky-like, and tie a length of cord on it as a leash.

Now...she walks over toward the bathroom and says something to him (I didn't hear what), then I hear her yell "RN! He's not doing anything!"

Huh? WTF? She just spent the last hour telling you what she wants you to do, then put the leash in your hand, bro! Wake up and smell the napalm!

The poor guy didn't know what to do. He was raised by strict Catholic grandparents (his mom's mentally ill), and is as vanilla as Bryer's ice cream. He was completely lost.

So she had me demonstrate. NOTE: No clothing was removed, and there was no touching of any kind.

I took the leash, said "Come with me, Little One, and led her, like, maybe five steps onto the living room, then told her to sit in a chair.

And that was it. In the fifteen seconds or so that took, I got so aroused I had to walk away from the situation. Seriously, I was halfway erect, just from that.

I went and hid in the bathroom for a minute until I had myself under control.

I came back into the living room, and he still wasn't sure. She had me take the leash again. Deep breath. "Follow me, Young Lady." I led her around the living room, over to the balcony door, made sure she was OK with going on the balcony, then led her outside, pulled a patio chair over, and had her sit in it. Yeah, rock hard. Maybe forty five seconds of Dom play.

Anyway, dude was still inside the house! I handed him the leash, said "what she wants from you right now is Leadership--take charge. Tell hwr exactly what you want her to do, and how you want her to do it. You are in command." (she vociferously agreed with that statement) Then I headed back into the bathroom to get control of my ragimg erection before anyone noticed.

Yeah...guess I'm a Dom.

Edited for spelling and punctuation.