Hello everyone!

So recently, i've been thinking about visiting a dungeon for the first time ever. I've been kinky for as long as i can remember and been a part of several long-term D/s relationships, but haven't ever actually done any scenes in person before. I want to finally bite the bullet and get involved with a real-life community, and going to a dungeon seems like the best place to start.

However. There's just one problem. I have no idea what kinds of things to expect when i go, and what kinds of things are expected of me. Like, how am i supposed to interact with the people there? Do you just walk up to someone and strike up a conversation? Are you supposed to talk about kinky things, or is that considered too forward? Are you expected to play with someone once the conversation's over, and if you say no, do they get offended? How do you ask someone to play, and how do you respectfully decline if someone asks you? Are there any customs or rules that i should know going in that might not be super obvious? As a submissive woman, should i be like bowing or showing respect to all the Dom(mes) i come across? As a lesbian woman, will there even be anyone there for me to play with? How can i tell who might be interested? And how can i let people know that i'm only looking for female partners?

I'm also super nervous about being around such experienced kinksters when i'm such a complete newbie. I hear constantly about how welcoming the kink community is, but i still cant help feeling like i'll be judged for my inexperience.

It would be amazingly helpful to hear more about what the Dungeon Experience (tm) is like, from both the perspective of a new person and a seasoned veteran. And if anyone could point me in the direction of a good dungeon etiquette guide, i would be immensely grateful.

Thanks for listening to me nervously ramble. I really, truly appreciate it :)