Newbie "sub" here, to the point where I'm not even sure I'm comfortable calling myself that. My partner and I have been playing around more and more with domination and I'm super into it and like the idea of intensifying it. I was curious how other people came to these kind of relationships. Did you know you wanted a Dom or sub and therefore look for that explicitly in a partner? Did it start with some light spanking or dirty talk and then evolve into a more intense dynamic? And if so what is that dynamic now? How did you come to domination/submissiveness and how have your dynamics changed over time? Also, especially for those that are nonmonogamous, do you have more than one Dom or sub?