Myself and my significant other are new to BDSM and we're wanting to experiment and explore what forms of BDSM appeals to us.

We've successfully established a long-distance relationship that has been very successful and our communication is very open and honest. We are very free with expressing our feelings, are committed to each other and have developed our rules for our open relationship (that develops and adapts as we learn and move forward).

In the early stages of our long distance relationship she expressed her interest in having an experience with an Dom who already knows what he is doing. That interest hasn't changed but now that we're now committed to each other her interest has become more cautious.

In my reading, the D/s connection has to be intimate by necessity because you need to develop trust before you can submit to someone. Forming that trust means meeting, hanging out, discussing interests all with the aim of develop into a workable D/s relationship.

My worry about all this isn't the domination/submission or the potential for sex, my worry is how the dynamic will play on her psychologically. Will the endorphin rush, the aftercare and the intimacy create a relationship that might compete with ours in some way?

I'd like any subs out there to give me an idea of how the D/s dynamic affects you on an emotional level in your relationship with a Dom. Especially if you have an SO who is not into BDSM or is not conveniently located to provide BDSM play on a regular basis.

Thanks!