Dear Everyone,

I need some serious advice and opinions. My girlfriend is getting ready to start working as a professional Dom. I actually encouraged her to get into the industry. Knowing her I believe she could do well and now finally has the opportunity. In our relationship we don’t partake in BDSM but we are very kinky.

A serious issue rose up yesterday, which is disturbing me. We were going through her services she would be providing and I learned of “dildo / strap on worship.” To put it simply she would be fucking her clients in the ass with a dildo, strap on, or something else. Basically I’m not cool with that. Penetration in my eyes, giving or receiving, is cheating. I’m not going to be doing that with another person and why should she? It just goes past a line for me.

When I expressed I wasn’t cool with this service she was surprised because apparently it’s very common request. Either way though, this is on her list of services she will be providing. So to all the Doms and the Subs out there what do you think? I feel hypocritical since I pointed her into this direction of work. I love her very much and I want encourage her in want she wants to do but this service is not something I’m comfortable with.

How should I feel about this?

Am I in the wrong?

Is this something I honestly should worry about?

What should I be worried about as she begins this career? Anything to watch out for?

To the professionals out there, is it possible to keep separate her professional life and our relationship?