I tried this on /r/okcupid a couple nights ago and it was hard to interpret. Kink and alt relationships are generally interesting topics to me... I was a try-bi sex addict for 13 years and often list myself as heteroflexible- I get the creep factor. But my kinks aren't always sexual and I can (and enjoy) talking about them openly without wanting to jump down the other party's pants. How do I make female friends and discuss these things with possible matches, in the context of sites such as okc, without throwing creep flags? It is literally probably my favorite topic and I can talk about these things with little to know flirting or pressure to be sexual.

ETA: I'm very rural. I have no problem driving in to town for a date but am taking a break from the small local munch due to some drama it makes it very hard to meet local kinksters and I would love to find new friends and maybe a new play partner.