I'm a sub (25f) with a some experience in the bdsm lifestyle. I met my former dom and we explored together for a number of years. We never got into the community, never attended any munches or anything along those lines. The relationship didn't last for many reasons. Now I'm back in my old city and while i get by with some distractions i don't have a new dom and, well, I'm starting to get an itch to find one.

Although i don't post and rarely comment I'm an experienced lurker in the bdsm community on reddit. Im looking into getting together with some local players in my town by going out to munches and getting to know people. My concern, however, is that i am big girl. BBW if you will. Based on this community , and my lurking on other subculture sites and forums, i feel like i might be a little out of place. Im open about my kink with friends and distractions. They generally accept it, even if they don't understand it and the last thing i want is to go to a munch and feel super out if place and awkward. Some people strongly feel like BBW sexuality is a dirty secret amd should be kept out of aight and out of mind for "normal size" people. I know not every guy sees a big girl as attractive and i don't expect them to. But we need love too... For those of you who do participate in your local bdsm community do you see many bigger girls around? Would you say that they are generally accepted as a fellow kinky player? Im trying to decide if i should take the leap and get to know other bdsm communities... or if i should quietly go about my way and keep my sexual proclivities in the bedroom as i always have. What do you guys think?