I am a former domme who is seeking to be a sub. I posted in the personals about this and received almost 100 DMs. Out of those, I've responded to three. Only three were worth their salt in terms of respect, shared interests, etc.

One of them asked if I'd be down for anal training. I explained that I had a very bad experience when I was younger and new to kink, my first boyfriend was the one who introduced me to BDSM but he sucked. He hurt me, and not in a fun way. I was injured by his inexperience and crappy technique/behavior. So I said I'm pretty cautious and it is probably not something I'd be into yet, if ever.

Mind you I've literally only talked to this guy for a few hours and he said "We can hold off on that for now then. Sorry you had a bad experience, but if you're ever interested I can make sure you enjoy it."

Am I overreacting for finding that off-putting as a response? It seemed like he jumped right to "I can do it right" and didn't spend much effort on the actual issue. It just seems like he's going to eventually press and press me into accepting anal no matter what, or at least that's the vibe I get. But am I really just going off vibes? Idk. Help?