I need to preface this post by saying three things: A) I’m really not a shallow person, I am just incredibly insecure about my height because it makes me feel less submissive; B) I am relatively new to the scene and C) this is more a post about relationship advice, but I’ve put it here because of the added kink dynamic!

Hi guys! I need some advice/ experience please. I have had a few BDSM experiences since getting out of a long and very vanilla relationship, and there is no going back now! However, what I really would like is a monogamous D/s relationship (I’m a sub). I’ve met this guy on Feeld and he is great, our connection and conversation is amazing, he really understands consent and boundaries and he’s also the first guy I’ve spoken to that understands the psychological aspect of dominating someone. Our kinks align perfectly, from what we’ve already shared (quite a lot), and we’ve been on a date and we talked non- stop for 7 hours, it was a great first date. He wants the same thing as me, and we feel comfortable around each other. The only problem is, that initial sexual attraction and chemistry just wasn’t there for either of us (we’ve discussed it and both agree). We’ve agreed to go on another date, possibly something a little more intimate this time. My question is, in your experience, can physical attraction grow? He’s an attractive guy, but he’s 2 inches shorter than me. It doesn’t matter how many times I tell myself that it’s only societal conditioning that makes me think this is a problem, it is really bothering me. He’s not even short- I’m just quite a lot taller than the average lady. He’s also quite slight and whilst I am slim, I am quite big boned. He’s an athlete, so I know he’s strong, it’s just that in my head I feel MASSIVE next to him, and don’t feel submissive at all. Please be kind to me, I’m not a shallow person and I honestly have no prejudice against short people, I just dislike being so tall and big myself. Thanks if you got this far!