I've found the subs with some experience under their belt usually have a good idea of what they want from a dynamic, and what they expect from their Dom. This makes communication way easier, and makes me feel way more comfortable as a Dom - I have an idea what she might enjoy, I know what the boudaries are in the dynamic, I know what's expected of me. I just need to what I do best - make sure she's safe and comfy, and make sure both of us have loads of fun!

When it comes to newbie subs who are just now exploring this stuff, communication is harder. Don't get me wrong, I really enjoy helping less experience subs figure things out, I'm more gentle, more careful with anything that can be a boundary, I check in more often. I find this very meaningful, I feel really useful, which is a great feeling.

The problem I'm running into is when I'm talking to potential subs who don't have a lot of experience, I don't really know where to start, because they don't really have a good idea on what they want other than the fact that they're curious about kink, or find the idea of giving up control hot. They don't know what their limits or boudaries are, which makes really anxious about accidentally crossing a limit neither of us know about!

This is kinda making me feel - inadequate, and I'm not a fan of this feeling. I'm curious if this is a problem any of you faced, as a sub or as a Dom. I'm need advice on how to handle this.