I’m a male Dom who’s been part of the BDSM scene for a while. I’ve done plenty of research, had partners submit to me in the bedroom, and built a good understanding of what I’m looking for. But here’s the challenge—I want to find a submissive who’s interested in a dynamic that extends outside the bedroom, and I’m finding it frustratingly difficult to make that connection. I’m interested in an online dynamic but don’t wanna be creepy or weird.

I know the importance of trust, communication, and compatibility in these relationships, but I’m wondering if I’m looking in the wrong places or going about this the wrong way. For those who’ve had success finding a sub who’s truly compatible for a lifestyle dynamic, where did you meet them? What approaches worked best for you?

I’d love to hear your advice, tips, or even personal stories that could help me navigate this search better. Thanks in advance for sharing your experiences!

Kinks I Enjoy:

Total Power Exchange, shibari, sensation play, impact play, role-playing, domination, submission, fetish exploration, temperature play, wax play, teasing, denial, sensory deprivation, toys, orgasm control, degradation with praise, cock and cum worship, and giving tasks.