Hello everyone. I was reflecting on life goals and my relationship with whether or not I will want children someday and an odd question came to my mind. For context, I am an all or nothing kind of lover. If I emotionally fall for someone who I find physically attractive and happens to feel the same about me, they become the center of my world. I hesitate to use the word "obsession" because of the negative connotations, but they will be on my mind in one form or another all through the day, pretty much every day. As you can imagine, this kind of unbridled passion has worked it's way into my kinks as well. Feel free to read my post about Free Use to get a better idea of the kind of passionate dynamic I am taking about.

Anyway, while reflecting on my thoughts of having children, it occurred to me that a child would definitely through a wrench in this kind of dynamic. Raising a child requires loads of effort and attention that will undoubtedly exhaust both parents and even when the child gets to a point where they can safely be left alone for a bit, them always being around greatly limits the amount of opportunities partners would have to get a little "inappropriate." I'm not genuinely concerned, but a small part of me worries that having kids would mean having to choose to leave that dynamic behind entirely and that sacrifice would definitely bum me out.

All this to say, I would love to hear how kinky parents have dealt with the challenge? Were you still about to make some kind of Free Use dynamic work, or did the realities of life force you to change your desires and leave it behind?