i’m in a d/s relationship with my dom who has turned very absent. I don’t know what happened. He was never incapable of showing kindness, respect, and compassion but i guess that changes too.

thing is, how do i break up with someone respectfully that’s not even there physically and emotionally? would it matter if i said anything? he doesn’t talk to me anymore, what’s the point? i’ve deleted every intimate exchange we had that he could trace back to on his phone.

secondly, as subs how do we just walk away without feeling a wave of hurt? do we just nurture these intimate connections and walk away without finalizing the “we are done” talk?

I don’t feel good nor secure in this relationship anymore. i want to get out of the constant sub drops and leave. this single experience won’t shatter my view on bdsm relationships in general but having to do this does hurt.