I’ve started seeing someone, and I’m loving the sex, but I’ve come across a problem: I’m extremely sensitive and I didn’t realize it. They’re my first sexual partner, but I’ve gotten off FREQUENTLY on my own since I was a teen, and I’m 22 now.

I get so sensitive I can’t properly cum. The orgasms feel different from when I’m alone. A little touching goes a long way and it doesn’t take much for it to become painful and overstimulating, which in turn makes it hard for me to get off. This doesn’t happen when I masturbate.

My partner has been feeling like they’re doing something wrong, and we’ve been trying different things to see if we can fix it, but even my toys feel too powerful when I’m with her.

Nowhere else is sensitive. My breasts aren’t at all, and I can barely feel penetration/don’t find it pleasurable.

Also my hands keep going numb when they’re pleasuring me, which doesn’t happen when I masturbate. Could it just be because I’m not used to being with someone else?

We’ve tried oral, grinding, restraining my hands to see if I can power through, stuff like that. At this point I’m debating if I’ll only be able to cum if I keep my underwear on, or if she wears gloves or something…

Any advice or tips or tricks would be appreciated. Is there some kink, position, etc I could maybe try (other than mutual masturbation)