I'm new to all this, I'm discovering myself alone and together with my partner, I realize that some of her kinks are not mine and vice versa.

I'd like to give you a general context, we've been together for 7 years, and last month she made a virtual friend that ended up becoming a D/s relationship where she's the sub. Although she asked me to explore this side of myself more, I always put it off until later. Anyway, at first we broke up because I couldn't deal with the situation. And now we've decided to get back together, and she would maintain this relationship, we established some rules: - I'll only talk to him during a pre-determined time, as friends, respecting our time as a couple. - Sessions only during the hours I work and she's on break 3-4 times a week. - Conversations during the weekends while I work, just as friends. - Never with the kids around (we have 2)

anyway, I would like opinions from people who are or have been in this situation.