Post asks the question. I (29 M) am trying to branch out more into my local kink community and figure the best way I can do that is by attending a munch. In this case, it’d be a monthly mixer at a bar downtown.

I don’t currently have a play partner and I know that munches aren’t meant to be a play forum or one with any expectation beyond genuine social interaction. Nevertheless, I’m worried it could be frowned upon for a single guy like me to go alone. I wouldn’t want to go if I’m getting suspicious looks and whispers around the room the whole time.

So, is it okay for me to go by myself, or should I wait until somehow finding a partner elsewhere that I would take to one? How should I broach the subject of kink with folks there, especially of the opposite gender (since I’m straight), without coming across as though I have ulterior motives?

I’d certainly be down with playing with someone after if we really hit it off, but I know I should not be going in at all expecting that to be the case. What else do I need to know?