Okay, sooo I need some advice from y’all. I’ve been talkin' to this guy who claims he’s into the whole Dom/sub dynamic, but I’m feeling kinda... off about it. Like, he’s super into the idea of being a Dom but doesn’t really show it, you know? So, we’ve had some light play, & I’ve tried to push him a lil’ bit, testing his boundaries. I’m used to a little more... intensity, especially when I’m in the sub role. But he’s just sooo soft with everything. I told him I wanted a more firm hand, like some spankings and rough play, and he said he wasn’t comfortable with it. Uhhh... isn’t that kinda part of being a Dom???? I’m tryin' not to be too critical, but I feel like I’m not getting the control and dominance I need to feel fully in my sub space. It’s making me question if maybe he’s just not cut out for this kind of dynamic or if I’m just being too demanding. Like, I’m all about the respect and consent and everything, but at the same time, I need him to take the lead. I can’t just be here waitin' for him to ask me what I want all the time. I need him to take control, to make decisions, set the rules, and enforce them, y’know? So, I'm here askin; if this is just normal or should I just cut ties & find someone who actually knows how to dominate properly? Am I asking for too much? Help a girl out! (PLSSS)