I’m just looking for advice on where to find an experienced partner. I’ve only had one D/s dynamic and it was strictly online. I loved it, but I want something physical.

Fetlife has been mostly disappointing. I’ve met a lot of cool people, a couple of whom I’ve vibed with, but it’s primarily been thirsty men who don’t bother reading my profile. The same is true for Feeld, only with more scammers.

How did you meet your partner? Where do you recommend starting? Is there anything you would suggest a (relatively) new sub to avoid?

PS. The idea of going to a social event where I am familiar with no one (like a munch) gives me crippling anxiety. I’ve looked into that a few times but can’t bring myself to go alone.