I just want to share my happiness with my first dom/sub experience. It's a first experience for both of us. And curious your thoughts about dom/sub open sexual relationships turning into longterm relationships.

I (40f) met my dom (35m) at a sex party. I was really new to the scene, it was my second party. Thought he was cute, enjoyed our time together, and we exchanged numbers to meet again for sex outside the party. I was very clear I didn't want a relationship, I was still was healing from a break up from months before. And tbh he's not someone I saw myself with because we're very different.

We met for sex again and shared our most intimate fantasies we'd never shared with anyone before, I had never told anyone these things even in my long term relationships, and our fantasies are super synced (all related to BDSM humiliation/praise/pet kink). So we started exploring those fantasies together.

At some point he shared his feelings for me, that if I ever changed my mind he'd like to be in a relationship, that he loves me. But also he's fine continuing what we have as is.

It's been almost 3 months of this dom/sub sexual relationship and friendship, with daily talking and sexting. We don't speak the same first language (he's a non English speaker), so it's painstakingly slow to communicate but we are both super patient with one another, and to my surprise somehow our communication is the best of any relationship I've ever had, which I think is thanks to the dom/sub dynamic. Like me needing to stop something when I'm uncomfortable or scared or triggered and asking him for reassurance, how responsive and sensitive he is to me! When we've been with other people outside our... whatever this is that we're doing, how we openly share our jealousy and ask for reassurance. Etc. How we check in with one another. There is so much vulnerability in this dom/sub open relationship dynamic.

We decided recently to start spending more non-sexual time together, like actual dates.

Now when he leaves my apt I miss him. I think about him a lot. Every time I see him he's more physically attractive, downright hot even, and beautiful. I feel really loved and cared for and love and care for him. I count down the days til I see him again.

And turned on!! I've never been so hot for anyone before. Every time we meet we discuss ahead of time new and exciting things to try.

I do wonder if the dom/sub thing is what's led to these deep feelings I have? Would I have fallen for him if we dated normally?

Does it matter?

Curious your thoughts. Similar experiences? Or just sharing in my NRE dom/sub happiness is cool too :)