My husband and I are both switches, we both lean heavier on the submissive side. Been married 3 year now, kinky that whole time. My husband especially is very submissive, or at least he used to be.

Every time I feel dominant, he's so eager, saying how subby he feels, but never wanting to do the scene I plan that are all things we both like. He only wants to do things that benefit him now. all of the fun non sexual scenes that leave me feeling like I have neither dominated nor gotten anything out of the scene. While he gets a nice relaxed nap, I find myself in DomDrop after every scene.

What's happening here? Am I doing something wrong? Everytime I bring it up he acts like nothings changed. I'm starting to feel used. Is he even a submissive?