With male cuckolds I can see many examples of things that go beyond just being told you're inferior. Things that show you you're inferior in a way that goes beyond roleplay (or at least pushes the boundaries). I see less examples of this among cuckqueans.

Perhaps that's because there seems to be more overlap between cuckqeans that do and don't like humiliation. Men who don't want to be humiliated distance themselves more from the label "cuckold" and call themselves a "stag" but not as many women want to distance themselves from the label by calling themselves a "doe" (which would be the gender flip).

Perhaps it's an issue of perception. To women, the things they do are twists of the knife that hurt just as much, and I'm just not aware of their perspective. By all means, if you feel you understand what I'm trying to convey, and you think this is what's going on, please tell me.

To my mind, telling the cuckold/cuckquean that they are inferior and making them clean up is something that could all be part of the roleplay, even if for individual people this is an extreme act that pushes them to the edge.

Now to be specific.

One thing is being enthusiastic about a sex act with a bull that they either flat out denied the cuck or were only ever half-hearted about. I don't just mean she stops giving blowjobs after the cuckold dynamic is set. I mean she never wanted anal before but the bull changed things for her.

Another thing would be unique reactions. Like the bull giving vaginal orgasms to a woman who didn't know she could have them or at least never did with her partner.

Lastly is how much trust and time was needed to be sexual with the cuck, compared to the bull that slept with her on the first few nights.

Of course this doesn't happen in every cuckold dynamic. But I see these brought up way more in cuck spaces than cuckquean spaces. These are things that affect the way you evaluate the relationship before the cuckold dynamic was ever established.

For cuckquean relationships, here is what it would look like:

I think it's way less common that a guy denies his gf a sex act that he would do with another woman. It's way less common to hear about a guy that enthusiastically ate his ex's pussy but refuses his current partner. But what I could see is a guy who struggles to get hard for his partner, and his dick is rock hard for the cuckcake. Maybe the equivalent to this is a guy using porn to get hard and I'm not valuing it enough?

Another example would be a guy, during sex, telling his gf of 4 years "I was willing to marry my last girlfriend after 6 months, but it's been 4 years with you and I still don't know." and then proving it after with some kind of email or showing her dms.

The examples I give represent things that would cut deep for many men. I know I don't speak for all men, but for quite a lot of men this is basically nightmare fuel.

I'm asking:

Does nightmare fuel for women look different, and they just don't care about these things as much. For most women there are other things that are there worst fears? (Ex: Him loving another woman and/or leaving you for her hurts worse than him being less excited for you but staying with you)

Or

Are these things also the worst ways to cut women, and less cuckqueans are interested in this level of cruelty?

Or

Am I just missing a bunch of posts of cuckqueans facing this exact type of cruelty.

It doesn't have to be one of the other. It can be a combination of these answers or something else entirely.