Me28F and partner38M have a newly fwb partnership. A few details: He is a pleasure dom and quite big in size, 7x6. I’m new to kink/bdsm. Before him, I haven’t been sexually active for years (5 lol) and I guess I have a very tight 🐱. Our first time together was painful for me. We didn’t use lube (ouch) and about 10 mins into penetration, I was starting to hurt. We both finished, me multiple times. Afterwards, I was super sore for about 1.5 weeks, definitely tore something. 2nd time was so much better. Used lube. He thought it was fantastic, came quickly and I was mostly thankful not to be in pain. I very much enjoyed myself as well. I was a little sore afterwards.

Here is the thing: he is gentle. caring. encouraging and always asking if I’m okay, which I love. I feel well respected and safe with him. We have decided to take things a bit slow given my experience. BUT ovulation, my peak week is coming up and I get fucking feral lol my libido is pretty high but during this time it’s out of control!! I want him to just take me. Be in complete control. Let loose. Impact play/dirty talk/hair pulling/light choking/super handsy, etc. I want it all with him. How do I encourage him to be this way with me while still being submissive? Slightly initiate by wearing something sexy? Sending him a sexy text? Any ideas or tips would be helpful, thank you!!