A lot of the chastity fetish seems to be about the orgasm control and that's it. But a lot of the allure of BDSM to me is the discipline. Not necessarily corporal punishment type, but the practiced self-control type.

Let me elaborate a bit. When I first learned about analplay and chastity, it fascinated me. For some reason, I really loved the idea of being conditioned to never orgasm from "normal" penile stimulation ever again. The discipline and desperation in only having an orgasm through alternative methods - like anal or nipple stimulation - or from CBT, where you're so sensitive and desperate for stimulation that you'll even resort to pain in order to get off. I spent 3 years on-and-off practicing this self-discipline on myself and exploring all sorts of methods. It's always been my ultimate fantasy to give someone the power to chaste and discipline me in this way.

This has always been the major appeal of chastity to me, and I was wondering if anyone else feels the same way? Has anyone ever heard of a dynamic like this? I feel a little bit weird about it, so if this is at all relatable please let me know.