Hey everyone,

I’m a dominant male (M23) and my fiancée (F22) is my submissive. We’re starting fresh with the dynamic of our sexual relationship in real life, and I want to create a clearer structure that works for both of us.

Up until now, things have been somewhat unstructured. We’ve explored a lot together, but I haven’t really established any guidelines or boundaries. My fiancée enjoys more intense forms of play, such as face-f***ing, but she has a strong gag reflex, which makes it hard for her to fully enjoy it.

In general, I’m quite rough and dominant during our encounters, and I tend to act based on what I like. However, I want to help her understand my preferences more clearly, while also being mindful of her needs and limits. Specifically, I’m looking for ways to help her manage or adapt to her gag reflex, so she can enjoy the experience more without the discomfort of feeling like she’s going to gag or vomit when things get too intense.

Additionally, I’d like to set up some sort of structure or routine in our sexual relationship to help her gradually get used to what I expect. Whether it’s through tasks, games, or a more guided approach, I want us to build a better mutual understanding.

Do you have any tips for:

Establishing a structure to create a more defined dynamic between us?

Ways to help with her gag reflex so she can comfortably enjoy these kinds of activities?

Fun or productive routines/tasks that we can incorporate to enhance our connection and her ability to adapt to what I want?

Thanks in advance for your insights and advice!