I'm looking for advice from those that are married but play with others. I talked before about how I wanted to explain to my husband my need/want of a D/S relationship. He's done the research and has learned so much, he planned a surprise date to a dungeon to learn more and I do appreciate the effort but nothing has come from it. Our sex is the same right now I can't even tell you the last time we had sex.
I was set to give up on the idea and not bring it up again because I don't want to pressure him if it's not really his thing. But recently I was chatting with a friend who's apart of the community also and just venting to him we found out our wants for a dom/ sub align perfectly. We haven't physically done anything together and just text but the way he handles my brattiness, his dominant energy, I've been finding myself craving more talks, more praise, imaging the things he'd do.

I want to know how I should bring this up to my husband. I'm aware I'd have to cut communication if he's against it but I just want to hear how it works for others.