I’m a male sub in my mid 20s and I’ll be totally honest I think it’s been having an overwhelmingly negative effect on my mental health and I kind of want to be done with it.

For me, it’s not really so much an aspect of shame. I’ll go to munches and such and at the very worst it at least gives you an opportunity to talk about these things without judgment. Actually getting the opportunities to explore any of this, between munches, game nights, play parties anything, is so frustratingly few and far between that it just makes me feel unworthy of it and like I’m wasting my time. As much as I want to pursue these things it just keeps making me miserable and I think it would be best if I stopped. Anyone have any suggestions or solutions?