My husband (dominate, 38M) is very good with all the physical stuff that I (submissive, 42F) enjoy.

Our kinky sex is amazing, mostly, and we talk pretty openly about likes and dislikes as well as things we might want to try.

I’m a VERY verbal person…made my living in a communications based job. I really need the mental stimulation of verbal dominance and mind fucking to complement the kinky physical touch. He says he’s trying, but struggles in the moment to come up with words. He tends to shut down when he’s overwhelmed and generally needs time to process his thoughts before saying them. We are a bedroom-only D/s dynamic, and he is a gentle, quiet, loving partner in our daily lives. Very naturally introverted and on the autism spectrum.

Advice for helping him? He’s clearly said he’s into it, so that’s not the worry.