I know ghosting is very common aspect in dating. It’s definitely hard to move on from. It’s 1000x worse in the d/s dynamic as everything is built on trust, respect and communication and it’s very intense and intimate, it’s awful to do especially to a sub but my experience is also so much worse then the average d/s ghosting situation.

I met this guy last year and I fell instantly. I won’t go into to much detail as it’s not important but I was ghosted because I got upset with him. He ghosted me, didn’t even delete me as a play partner, he knew I was still injured from a past experience where he injured me, didn’t do proper aftercare, and no follow up, the sub drop was so so bad. He ghosted me while he knew I was injured, blocked me when I told him what the doctors said about the injury, I felt so violated, abandoned, used, I struggle still with trust.

I have a beautiful wonderful partner now who wants to communicate and help me heal and I love him to bits but I’m always on edge because idk how to fully trust someone now. I’ve had a very awful year filled with pet loss, a bad breakup of a very long term relationship, homelessness, got scammed and verbally and financially abused, etc. The ghosting really has fucked with my mental health, I had to heal on my own, I also had a bad experience at a gangbang night I do not wish to delve into.

Usually I delete posts on Reddit but idc if he or others might come across it, I never named his name anywhere, everyone else would be pasting his name, his picture, his number, his address and attacking him online.

I haven’t done any of that, I’ve reacted so mildly and it’s so upsetting he ghosted me and left me to deal with my injury by myself. It took up until last month to heal. That was on my body for 4 months because I stupidly let him consensually go rough but I didn’t want bodily harm done where he just left me to deal with it on my own. Guy didn’t even ice me.

He gave zero fucks, I’m having such a hard time with my mental health now. I’m on edge and lash out in anger with mean comments. I love my boyfriend, he cares about me so much and is an amazing daddy but my mental health has been insane since I was ghosted and the trauma from gangbang night. I was already in such a bad place mentally but now I’m so lost and so broken. Idk how I’ll ever heal. Being left alone to heal my injury by myself with no one’s support did so much damage I haven’t felt mentally well in so long as a result.

I recently got him to delete messages since he said he deleted pics and videos of us. He did do all of that, which is nice but he didn’t even apologize, this asshole was more then happy to delete any evidence of communication with me but he couldn’t even apologize for fucking up my body for months. It was so violating to feel what he did on my body, for others to see and feel the mark he left. I felt maimed and marked.