Its been more than a year I think since I have been into BDSM. I’m a submissive. I’m usually on and off when it comes to being in a dynamic. I’m struggling to find a right fit because of which I distanced myself from reddit altogether for a while. Then, I decided to come back and try again. I have put on a very detailed post about what I’m looking for but still there has been no luck. I did speak to some people but with some there is an instant spark and it dies out in days, with some I try to build the spark because they seem to be a right fit, some don’t even read the full post and Dm and the worst ones are those who straight out call me names and claim to my Dom, what they fail to understand is that just because I’m a submissive and they are a Dom, they get to disrespect me. I’m a woman so I understand I’m going to get dms if I make a post but in so many dms, sometimes I think I’m gonna miss out on someone who is actually genuine and knows what they are doing. I don’t know who to talk to regarding this because I don’t discuss BDSM with my friends. I came across this page and thought maybe I can get some advice or just a discussion with anyone who is or has gone through the same.