I'm looking for opinions, experiences ect about when you told or would tell your vanilla partner about your kinky side.

Should a kinky person reveal their interest in kink (assuming it's more like a hobby instead of something that makes a living like a professional dominatrix ect)...

At the very start, even before first date?

On the first date?

Some weeks after starting to date?

Months after starting to date?

Before having sex for the first time?

After having sex for the first time?

A year into the relationship?

Multiple years into the relationship?

Before engagement?

After engagement?

While engaged before marriage?

After getting married?

Before having kids?

After having kids?

10 years into the marriage?

Never?