Since these are questions asked so often we decided to add a little FAQ about FetLife.

What is FetLife?

FetLife is a social networking site designed for people interested in BDSM, fetishism, and kink. It functions somewhat like a combination of Facebook and Reddit but is specifically geared toward those who engage in or are curious about alternative sexual lifestyles. It offers a space to meet like-minded people, share experiences, explore kinks, and participate in discussions without judgment.

How to Use FetLife

1. Create an Account

• Visit FetLife and click "Join FetLife."

• Enter a unique username, email address, and password.

• Confirm your email address via the link sent to your inbox.

2. Build Your Profile

• Add a profile picture (optional but recommended for engagement).

• Fill out your profile with basic information such as gender, sexual orientation, and location.

• Write a bio that reflects your interests and what you’re looking for on the platform.

3. Explore the Site

• Kinks: Browse or search for specific fetishes and interests. You can add these kinks to your profile.
• Groups: Join groups based on your interests or local area to participate in discussions.
• Events: Find local or online events that cater to your interests. RSVP to events and meet people in person.

4. Connect with Others

• Friends: Send friend requests to people you find interesting.
• Messages: Engage in private conversations with other users. Remember to respect boundaries and consent.
• Feeds: Your home feed will show updates from your friends, groups, and events you’re part of.

5. Participate in Discussions

• Group Discussions: Contribute to group conversations or start your own thread on a topic you’re passionate about.
• Writing: Share your thoughts, experiences, or fantasies through blog posts.

6. Stay Safe

• Privacy Settings: Customize who can see your profile and what information is public or private.
• Consent: Always communicate clearly and respect boundaries when interacting with others.
• Verification: Some users verify their identity or presence at events to build trust, but this is optional.

7. Explore Content

• Photos and Videos: View and share images or videos that align with your interests, keeping in mind community guidelines.
• Writing: Explore stories, essays, and fantasies shared by other users.

8. Engage with the Community

• Support Groups: Find and join groups that focus on safety, education, and support within the kink community.
• Learning Resources: Many groups and discussions provide educational content to help you learn more about BDSM, kink, and consent.

9. Attend Events

• Local Meetups: Use the Events feature to discover and attend local meetups, workshops, and parties.
• Virtual Events: Participate in online events if you’re not ready or able to attend in person.

10. Respect the Community Guidelines

• Community Standards: Familiarize yourself with FetLife's community guidelines to ensure you’re following the rules.
• Report Issues: Use the reporting feature if you encounter abusive or inappropriate behavior.