I play with a Top semi frequently. They're a fair bit older than I and much more experienced. We play exclusively at a club.

I've asked things such as, what do you want from/in a scene, what do you like, what can I do for your enjoyment, how do you want to feel during a scene, why do you like to Top, and more along those lines.

I don't get much back on this front, nothing constructive anyways. The other parts of my messages elicit more detailed responses.

At one point it almost sounded like they might've been a service Top, so I asked and they said no not really, they like to do it to stay in shape basically as they are getting older. So I'm left slightly confused.

In other areas of kink related conversation they are fairly thorough such as negotiation, consent, what I liked or didn't like, what I or they might want to add in a future scene, my past experiences, etc. etc.

Until this past June I was out of the scene since 2018 and all my amazing past partners were more explicit and very different from this wonderful human. I just need more ideas to talk about with them. As it is they are very clear that they enjoy playing with me, have a lot of fun and clearly get excited to torture me, but if I can make it better, I want to.

So if you were in my position, what might you offer in a future discussion? What might you ask that I may have neglected?